There is noth­ing wrong with this yet. Almost all chil­dren go through pet­ty theft and soon­er or lat­er par­ents are faced with a sit­u­a­tion where a child brings home some­one else’s toy or thing🧸

Usu­al­ly this caus­es a storm of neg­a­tive emo­tions, accu­sa­tions against the baby. But let’s not rush to con­clu­sions, find out the rea­sons and decide what not to do ☝️


▪️ throw tantrums and scan­dals
▪️ to con­sid­er that irrepara­ble hap­pened to the baby
▪️to approve or show indif­fer­ence to the fact of theft
▪️ blame the child if his guilt is not proven
▪️ call the child a thief and sim­i­lar epi­thets, i.e. hang “labels”
▪️ com­pare with oth­er chil­dren or with your­self: “Here I have nev­er stolen. And who are you like?
▪️to allow the child to be judged in pub­lic, not to insist on a demon­stra­tive apol­o­gy
▪️dis­cuss the child’s behav­ior in the pres­ence of strangers

The child can­not under­stand which things are his and which are strangers. Until 3–4 years old (depend­ing on the pace of devel­op­ment), the child does not divide the world into “own” and “alien” at all 🤷🏼♀️

Every­thing around is not just “his own”, but is prac­ti­cal­ly a con­tin­u­a­tion of his per­son­al­i­ty. The toy that the child takes becomes a kind of exten­sion of his hand🙌

In prin­ci­ple, by the time of the cri­sis of three years, the process of sep­a­ra­tion of the “I” of the baby and the out­side world should be com­plet­ed. And only after that he will be able to real­ly under­stand what a “for­eign” thing is ☝️🧸

❗️Until the age of 7, the child has not yet devel­oped voli­tion­al process­es, so at this age, chil­dren often take things because they real­ly want to, while real­iz­ing that they are doing a bad deed 😔

Be extreme­ly care­ful, be sen­si­tive, remem­ber that this is not a recidi­vist thief, but a child ☺️

Hur­ry­ing, giv­ing vent to your indig­na­tion, you can ruin the child’s life, deprive him of the right to a good atti­tude of oth­ers, and there­by self-con­fi­dence🙁

Of course, you can help a child under­stand the dif­fer­ence between his own and oth­er peo­ple’s things not only with the help of expla­na­tions, but also with dif­fer­ent fairy tales, and who knows how to read fairy tales bet­ter than par­ents or Rac­coon? And if par­ents are some­times just tired or busy, Rac­coon will help out by tak­ing the baby with an inter­est­ing sto­ry, you just have to dis­cuss the con­clu­sions with the child👧🏻


By Yara