When the Uni­fied State Exam­i­na­tion and the OGE are approach­ing, grad­u­ates feel a whole range of feel­ings — from fear to enthu­si­asm. But it turns out that this is just the begin­ning. Ahead of admis­sion, no less excit­ing stage in life. Dur­ing this peri­od, the main task of par­ents is to sup­port the appli­cant. Our advice will def­i­nite­ly help in this dif­fi­cult mat­ter.

Tip #1: No pressure

First of all, the heads of appli­cants are filled with thoughts about where to go. Here — far, there — expen­sive, here — there are not enough points or sim­ply not inter­est­ing.

There is no need to put pres­sure on the child and force him to sub­mit doc­u­ments to the law office, like a dad. In the end, it is he who enters, and it is the grad­u­ate who will study at a uni­ver­si­ty or col­lege. And in the future — many years of work.

Some par­ents man­age to great­ly raise the bar, throw­ing phras­es like: “If you don’t enter this uni­ver­si­ty with a high rat­ing, then you will be revenge yards all your life.” Need­less to say, such state­ments cause fear, anx­i­ety, low­er self-esteem and do not moti­vate at all, espe­cial­ly when the exam is ahead and par­ents expect only the high­est score?

Tip #2: Let go of control

There is no need to con­trol the child 24/7: “Have you pre­pared for the exams? Did you find out the start date of the selec­tion com­mit­tee? Did you choose a spe­cial­ty? Have you agreed on a hos­tel? Did you take pho­tographs for doc­u­ments? It hap­pens that tired and unde­cid­ed grad­u­ates take a “vaca­tion” for a year, work until they final­ly decide on a uni­ver­si­ty. When par­ents fol­low every step and try to get into their heads, there is not a sin­gle oppor­tu­ni­ty to think and make an informed deci­sion.

Give the child more free­dom, includ­ing from your nota­tions and instruc­tions. The task of par­ents in such a peri­od is to cre­ate the most com­fort­able con­di­tions for the suc­cess­ful pass­ing of exams and for sub­se­quent admis­sion.

Tip #3: Offer help

It is not nec­es­sary to inter­fere in the affairs of the grad­u­ate, but to help is quite! Of course, before that, it is bet­ter to ask if he needs help at all. Per­haps the child will not inter­fere with an expla­na­tion on one of the exam top­ics. Or maybe your friend’s son took the exam last year and can share his expe­ri­ence. Or the child will ask you for some advice about choos­ing an insti­tute or fac­ul­ty.

This also includes assis­tance in orga­niz­ing a com­fort­able space. Offer to do a lit­tle rearrange­ment (some­times it helps to tune in a new way), orga­nize a place on the bal­cony to study, or change the light in the room from cold to warm.

Tip #4: Cheer up with little things

There is hard­ly a grad­u­ate who does not wor­ry at the time of exams. Some­one is prepar­ing for the exam around the clock, some­one is study­ing the web­sites of uni­ver­si­ties and choos­ing, choos­ing, choos­ing … Raise the mood of the appli­cant! Pleas­ant lit­tle things will notice­ably inspire him. Favorite ice cream, gin­ger tea, a bou­quet of daisies, a fun gym ses­sion, a hot bub­ble bath or watch­ing your favorite movie.

Tip #5: Turn to time management

Dur­ing the peri­od of exams and dur­ing the work of the selec­tion com­mit­tee, anx­i­ety increas­es, which is why grad­u­ates often feel a break­down. And chil­dren can for­get to eat, sleep lit­tle, and neglect breaks in work.

In order to have time for every­thing planned (from pass­ing exams, obtain­ing a USE cer­tifi­cate and end­ing with study­ing enroll­ment lists), unload­ing a child and tak­ing care of his health, it is use­ful for par­ents and appli­cants to turn to time man­age­ment.

Sup­port the child by joint­ly orga­niz­ing a clear sched­ule, which will include not only things of pri­ma­ry impor­tance, but also time for unload­ing. Many appli­cants for­get about rest dur­ing the dif­fi­cult time of exams and admis­sion, so the child should be remind­ed more often about walk­ing, meet­ing friends, relax­ing or chang­ing activ­i­ties.

Tip #6: Boost your confidence

Dur­ing the peri­od of pass­ing exams, it is espe­cial­ly impor­tant for a child to feel strong and suc­cess­ful. The sup­port of loved ones will help him cope with the excite­ment: “You can!”, “You will suc­ceed!”, “You tried hard, so there will cer­tain­ly be excel­lent results”, “I believe in you”, “You have enough knowl­edge and skills to do every­thing is great”.

By the way, not only praise can give self-con­fi­dence. Of course, it is nec­es­sary to empha­size faith in the child, but it will also be impor­tant for him to know that he has the right to make a mis­take and that no one will con­demn him for this: “Even if some­thing goes wrong, we will cope with every­thing togeth­er,” “You can, if any­thing, enter next year.”


By Yara