To praise or not to praise? That is the question. Each parent chooses his own upbringing scheme and considers it correct. But for the successful upbringing of a child, according to psychologists, it is necessary that the praise be correct. Thoughtlessly said “Well done!”, “Excellent”, etc. may be misunderstood by the child. From how he is praised, self-esteem in the future depends. Kind words can do wonders. If a child hears praise, he perceives it as “I am good”, feels significant, strives for new achievements. Conversely, if you criticize him too much, then the “I am bad” model is developed, why should I try to do something else. Praise serves as a motivator for overcoming difficulties, the desire to reach “new heights”. As you already understood, praise can be both useful and have negative consequences for your child.
The basic principles of praise include:
one. Praise to the point and objectively. For every little thing, handing out right and left “you are so talented”, or “you are doing well” is not worth it. In itself, praise will lose its value in this case. And there will be a risk that after some time the child will do everything in order to be praised, which can lead to the development of egocentrism.
2. Praise the deed, not the person who did it. Try to encourage the child so that he understands what exactly he did well. For example, I neatly folded things, or drew / blinded something very complex. Pay attention to details.
3. Don’t compare your child to others. Point out that he himself did a particular action well. There is no need to focus on superiority over Katya or Misha. Every child is different and so are their abilities.
And in conclusion, one more recommendation from psychologists – do not forget about a smile, hugs, kisses when you praise your baby. He should see and feel your sincere joy for his, although small at first, but still efforts and achievements.
We wish you success!