Yes, we have already written about slow children. But this article is not quite ordinary – here we will talk about small games and exercises that any parent can offer a child with certain characteristics. Our new, practice-oriented series of articles will be called “Psychological Workshop”.
Sometimes it happens that a child is going to kindergarten, eating his morning porridge, tying his shoelaces or brushing his teeth not as fast as he would like. Of course, the baby is just learning to do some things, so he needs time to work out some actions to automatism. But what if you objectively see that your child is much slower than even their peers? We deal with the reasons and talk about exercises that will take parents no more than 5-10 minutes a day.
Of course, few people can argue with the fact that all people are different. And this applies not only to adults, but also to children. Everyone has different abilities and talents, different temperament. Also, some of them are nimble and reactive, while others are called “caps” and “mumbles”, which is certainly unpleasant for the children themselves, and you, as a parent, understand that in the future the skill of managing time will be very useful to him.
It can be difficult for you also because the child needs a lot of time for basic things. Sometimes this is not critical, but if your own plans suffer from this, then most likely it is annoying. However, slowness does not mean that the child will not be able to become successful. It is quite possible to work and cope with sluggishness, you just need a special approach.
Why is my child slow?
To begin with, we offer to understand the possible causes of children’s slowness:
Thoughts of another
Probably, speed of action is not your child’s forte, but you noticed that he has other talents. For example, he draws great (which requires great perseverance) or speaks with stories and skits in front of other children (which characterizes him as a wonderful young speaker with artistic inclinations). Some household chores or other activities may simply not be of interest to your child. The presence of problems can also influence: for example, it is difficult to work when your stomach hurts or the other day there was a quarrel in the family.
Anxiety about results
It happens with adults too: we are often afraid to sit down for a new business and procrastinate, stretching the work for the whole day, when it could take a couple of hours at most. The reason may lie in the fact that the task seems obviously difficult and we are afraid of not doing it right. If a child often encounters dissatisfaction with adults or peers about his actions, then, naturally, he may experience fear that if he does something wrong, he will be scolded, shouted at or laughed at.
Inability to concentrate
If children under 5 years old mostly memorize everything mechanically (new words, procedures, other everyday things), then by the beginning of school they suddenly need so-called voluntary attention. This applies to situations where something seems boring and uninteresting, but you still need to focus, simply because it is important.
Problems with motor skills
Sometimes children combine slowness with clumsiness. This can be related to both fine and gross motor skills. And this is also not scary at all, it just requires development. By the way, we have already talked a little about the ways of developing fine motor skills.
Just such a temperament
In other words, such temperament. For example, in phlegmatic people, in principle, sluggish speech and not the most expressive facial expressions can be observed. Perhaps you have noticed for a long time that when other children can hardly sit still, he can play for hours with the same toy or review the same cartoon for the twentieth time. Such babies are characterized by some persistence and adherence to the same views, which sometimes passes into adulthood. At school, for example, they can be very good in 1-2 subjects, and there is simply not enough time and energy for the rest.
Now let’s move on to the practical part. It can be a fun game for the baby, while mom and dad can help him become a little more agile in this way, without spending too much time.
What develops: a sense of time, the ability to fit into the set framework.
How to play: You can choose any action for this game. For example, let’s take drawing. You give your child a sheet of paper and ask them to draw 10 circles. You can complicate the task: say, ask him to shade 3, 6 and 8 circles. Then you can enter different colors. If the child asks again, then tell him to draw the way he remembers. Next, note the time: it can be one minute, three or five, depending on the complexity of the task. Gradually, the time can be reduced. If such a game is made regular, very soon you will notice a difference in the results!
Let’s play snowballs
What develops: coordination of movements, helps to achieve dexterity.
How to play: yes, yes, you can play these snowballs even in the apartment. To start, let mom or dad make the snowball himself. For example, it can be a tennis ball covered with cotton wool and tied with threads. You can throw it to each other, the child can throw it in the air and catch it, try to hit some object from a certain distance (under the supervision of the parents, of course) or catch a “snowball” bouncing off the wall. Just take care of the chandelier!
What develops: mobility, ability to switch.
How to play: let your child imagine that he is a car and he needs to change speeds on command. In total, 3 modes are available to him: run, step and walk. He walks in a circle and changes from one speed to another for each of your commands. Modes can be changed randomly and, of course, vary the time.
Racing on paper
What develops: fine motor skills of hands.
How to play: take a large sheet of paper and draw a route on it. It can meander in any direction – the main thing is that it is not easy, has many turns and zigzags. Draw a car at one end of the track, and a finish line at the other. Equip your young racer with a marker pen. His task is to draw the path from the start to the end point as quickly as possible, without removing the felt-tip pen from the paper and without driving over the edges of the track. You can also use a stopwatch and be happy to mark gradual progress.
Kingdom of Crooked Mirrors
What develops: attentiveness, gross motor skills.
How to play: let your child be a mirror. As you “look” into it, you make different movements. They should be as diverse as possible, involve different parts of the body. Gradually you can speed up. Your child’s task is to copy your movements as close to reality as possible. We are sure that it will be possible to laugh to your heart’s content with your child!
What to read
Marianna Lukashenko “Time Management for Children” – by doing the exercises from this book, your child will be able to better manage their time. You can read it together and do the suggested activities as you read. The acquired skills will definitely be useful to him in the future.
A big book of walkers, walkers and mazes – this book can be great entertainment for a preschooler, with which he can also develop mindfulness. To solve the problem of slowness, he can also go through mazes for a while.