Each fam­i­ly has its own tra­di­tions in the upbring­ing and rules of com­mu­ni­ca­tion with chil­dren. Some choose the tac­tics of too “soft” edu­ca­tion, while oth­ers, on the con­trary, take the side of sever­i­ty. But, in my opin­ion, these two meth­ods have equal­ly neg­a­tive con­se­quences for the child in the future. In the regime of per­mis­sive­ness and impuni­ty, par­ents run the risk of get­ting a self­ish con­sumer. And in exces­sive sever­i­ty, the child may devel­op such qual­i­ties as inse­cu­ri­ty, secre­cy, com­plex­es. Of course, find­ing the gold­en mean is very dif­fi­cult. And some­times it is very dif­fi­cult to restrain your­self at the peak of irri­ta­tion from screams. How­ev­er, shout­ing will not solve the prob­lem, but it can only get worse, and here’s why.

Shout­ing con­tributes to the loss of trust in the rela­tion­ship between an adult and a child. As a result, the child becomes emo­tion­al­ly unsta­ble, with low self-esteem.

A child brought up in a scream­ing envi­ron­ment grad­u­al­ly gets used to this man­ner of com­mu­ni­ca­tion and trans­fers these emo­tions into adult­hood. As a result, a hard, and per­haps part­ly cru­el, char­ac­ter of the child is formed. He is more often prone to rude­ness and inso­lence.

Scream­ing caus­es fear in the child. Agree, even for an adult, an increased tone of com­mu­ni­ca­tion is not pleas­ant. We can get con­fused, lose con­trol of the sit­u­a­tion, pan­ic. And what can we say about a small child …

scold the child

What can we do to stop yelling at a child?

We start with the fact that you need to calm down (go out on the bal­cony for a minute and exhale, wash your­self with cold water, drink a seda­tive). Start the dia­logue with your child from the begin­ning by mak­ing eye con­tact. Dis­cuss with him what hap­pened, your feel­ings, his per­cep­tion of the sit­u­a­tion. It would not be bad to apol­o­gize to each oth­er and smooth out the con­flict with mutu­al hugs.

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