Each family has its own traditions in the upbringing and rules of communication with children. Some choose the tactics of too “soft” education, while others, on the contrary, take the side of severity. But, in my opinion, these two methods have equally negative consequences for the child in the future. In the regime of permissiveness and impunity, parents run the risk of getting a selfish consumer. And in excessive severity, the child may develop such qualities as insecurity, secrecy, complexes. Of course, finding the golden mean is very difficult. And sometimes it is very difficult to restrain yourself at the peak of irritation from screams. However, shouting will not solve the problem, but it can only get worse, and here’s why.
Shouting contributes to the loss of trust in the relationship between an adult and a child. As a result, the child becomes emotionally unstable, with low self-esteem.
A child brought up in a screaming environment gradually gets used to this manner of communication and transfers these emotions into adulthood. As a result, a hard, and perhaps partly cruel, character of the child is formed. He is more often prone to rudeness and insolence.
Screaming causes fear in the child. Agree, even for an adult, an increased tone of communication is not pleasant. We can get confused, lose control of the situation, panic. And what can we say about a small child …
What can we do to stop yelling at a child?
We start with the fact that you need to calm down (go out on the balcony for a minute and exhale, wash yourself with cold water, drink a sedative). Start the dialogue with your child from the beginning by making eye contact. Discuss with him what happened, your feelings, his perception of the situation. It would not be bad to apologize to each other and smooth out the conflict with mutual hugs.
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